23 Sep On Denial
Where in your life right now are you in denial?
Have you ever caught yourself in a pattern of seeing things the way you wish they were? (And not what they actually are…) I get it. I’ve been there.
Denial is a pattern that manifests in many places, so if you’re playing it out in one area of your life (love), trust that it will show up in another (career). It’s like a crazy little troll.
…But it’s here to serve you, as all funky behavioral patterns are.
In many cases, denial helps you cope. It gives you a false sense of lightness when you yearn for it– truly a coping mechanism at it’s finest.
But you have to rip the Band-Aid off at some point.
For example, if you aren’t in love with your romantic partner, you can either cry now or cry later… But the end result is the same: pain… So why do we torture ourselves in denial when the future is so inevitable?
Or if you hate your job… You can either face the music now, or later.
The only thing standing between you and the fullness of the life you deserve is radical honesty. And courage. (Need help finding courage? We’ve got you covered, check one of my favorite books – Daring Greatly by Brené Brown)
A comfort zone is a wonderful place, but nothing grows there.
Why do we use misery as an indicator that it’s time to make a change? Why not take your lukewarm feelings about something as an inspiration for making a change?
If it’s not a “hell yes,” say no. Life is waiting for you. Don’t let the denial troll steal your freedom.
Cheers to all of us getting our heads out of the sand 🙂
P.S. Join me in celebrating one of the most inspiring human beings I know, Chelsea Krost, for being named the top millennial influencer by Forbes. What a reminder that your age or circumstances have nothing to do with the heights you can reach.
P.P.S. The Gender Pay Gap is Improving! Check out my latest on Forbes